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What is Premarital Counselling?

No matter if you and your partner are getting married by choice or arranged by your parents, it doesn't mean that you know everything about them. It's important to consider if you both are compatible and can work through any issues together, no matter how you are getting married.

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Are you both looking to work out any issues in your marriage? If so, taking a couple counselling session with a marriage counsellor might be a great idea. 

You might be wondering what premarital counselling is, and how it can help you. We have the answers for you! Premarital counselling is an effective tool that helps identify problems that may arise in a marriage and discuss how to handle these situations. It can be especially important when it comes to second marriages, as these factors can create unrest in married life if not addressed.

Getting pre-marriage counselling is a great way to help you figure out if your potential partner is the right one for you. On our page, there's also a handy relationship calculator which can help you decide if counselling is the right option for you.

Having a few sessions with a marriage counsellor can be really helpful in deepening your understanding of your partner. It can also be an opportunity to make confessions that you may not have discussed or considered talking to your partner about. A marriage counsellor can also provide you with guidance and counselling to help ensure a happy and successful marriage - don't take this relationship for granted!

According to recent studies, 30% of couples who participated in pre-marital counselling reported feeling more satisfied with their marriages. Conversely, 30% of couples who opted out of counselling ended up getting divorced a few years later.

It's important to take the time to understand each other better through astrological interpretation of both your charts. Pre-marital counselling can help create a strong foundation for your new life together, even if things are going well right now. With the help of a pre-marriage counselling, you can find out what potential issues may arise in the future. Remember, prevention is better than cure, so it's wise to work through any issues before your marriage in order to make it successful.

How does Pre-Marriage Counselling work – in astrology

It's important to understand how pre-marriage counselling works, and how astrology can play a role. Here are some ideas to consider when discussing pre-marital counselling:

Marriage expectations

Getting into any relationship, it's natural to have an idea of what it should look like. When getting married, you and your partner may both have certain expectations for the relationship. Don't be surprised if you discover that each of you has some unique ideas or beliefs about your union.

Men often don't express their expectations of marriage as openly, but that doesn't mean they don't have any. Talking about these matters before your wedding day can help you both achieve a strong and respectful marriage in the future.

A relationship counsellor will take a close look at the Lagna and ascendants of both partners in order to get meaningful results. They will also study the Navamsha of each individual to gain further insight.

Role beliefs:

How do you anticipate your future husband's expectations for your home and professional lives?

a. What do you think he would expect of you?

b. Does he anticipate you regularly cooking for him?

c. Do you think he expects you to manage household chores alone or with his assistance?

d. Are you planning on hiring household help or relying on your spouse to assist with household chores?

Are you comfortable living with your in-laws? If so, it's important to be open and clear about your boundaries. Compromise and come to a mutual understanding are key, so that you both know where you stand. An astrology reading and counselling could provide insight into the future of your relationship. A relationship counsellor can also help you navigate difficult conversations and work through potential issues.

Past, present, future

Our encounters, circumstances, and situations shape who we are. The marriages and couples we observed while growing up can subconsciously influence our perception of marriage. This is true for both partners in a relationship. Our past experiences may have created misconceptions about how all marriages are supposed to be.

A pre-marital counsellor can help you re-examine your beliefs and assumptions about marriage to better understand any potential issues and find solutions. Having a clear and accurate understanding of marriage can greatly contribute to the success of your wedding.

When it comes to managing finances and creating a household budget, it's important to consider both partners' sources of income. Will you both contribute to the household expenses equally, or will you split the costs in a different way? It's crucial to understand each other's expectations and find a solution that works best for both of you. Additionally, you should discuss your savings and investment plans after marriage to avoid any future financial stress.

A pre-marital counsellor can help facilitate a constructive conversation about your financial goals and expectations. They can help you find common ground and come up with a plan that suits both partners.

Discussing sex and intimacy can be challenging for some couples, as it is often considered taboo in Indian society. However, it's an important aspect of any relationship that needs to be addressed. It's possible that you may have talked about it before, but it's important to ensure that any ideas or suggestions are discussed thoroughly and are suitable for both partners.

A relationship counsellor can help you have an open and honest conversation about your desires and needs in the bedroom. An Astro Relationship Counsellor can also analyse your horoscopes to provide deeper insights into your compatibility and sexual tendencies.

When discussing marriage, one of the significant aspects that come to mind is having children. Questions about the number of children, parenting styles, and family involvement should be discussed. Children can be a deal-breaker in many relationships, so it's crucial to have open and honest communication about this topic.

A relationship counsellor can also read your birth chart and provide counselling services that can be beneficial for your post-marriage life.

Communication is essential in any relationship, especially in a marriage. It's important to establish a common approach to communication and learn how to express your feelings to your partner. It's also important to handle conflicts effectively and find ways to resolve disagreements in a healthy and productive manner.

Ignoring potential marriage issues or acting offensively during disagreements can lead to bigger problems down the line. Taking pre-marital counselling sessions can help predict and prevent these issues.

While the topics mentioned above are important, there are many other aspects of marriage that can be explored through pre-marital counselling services. These services can help couples navigate potential challenges and strengthen their relationship before tying the knot.

Benefits of Pre-Marital Astro Counselling

One may question the benefits of pre-marriage counselling and whether it can address relationship issues. The answer is yes; pre-marriage counselling can enhance your relationship and the advantages it offers are as follows:

Achieving positive resolution

Pre-marriage counselling provides guidance and advice that are crucial for finding a satisfactory solution for you and your partner. When discussing sensitive topics, strong emotions may arise, leading to irrational decisions. The counsellor helps you to navigate these difficult conversations and reach a positive resolution.

Developing conflict resolution skills

Relationships face conflicts that require resolution skills. While you may have the ability to solve a particular conflict, seeking pre-marital counselling can help you acquire better conflict resolution skills that can be beneficial in handling future conflicts.

Establishing realistic expectations

It is essential to set realistic expectations for your partner and the relationship. Pre-marriage counselling helps you learn how to set practical and achievable goals, ensuring that you do not have unrealistic expectations that can cause frustration and disappointment.

Identifying potential areas of conflict

Though there may be no existing problems between you and your partner, it is vital to identify potential areas of conflict. Pre-marriage counselling enables you to recognize and address potential issues before they become major problems.

Understanding the Past for a better future

A pre-marital counsellor can help you address past issues, including the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family or observing problems in other marriages. The counsellor provides guidance on how to break the cycle and create a better future for your relationship.

A relationship counsellor can provide a comprehensive list of topics that you need to discuss as a couple. Some basic questions to consider include your expectations regarding children, parenting styles, finances, sex and intimacy, communication, and conflict resolution. Seeking pre-marriage counselling services can help you address these issues, set realistic expectations, and prepare for a happier future together.

What does a Pre Marriage Counsellor do – Astrologically? 

A marriage counsellor can utilize astrological charts and horoscopes to identify potential areas of conflict and help resolve them before they become crises. These areas may include:

• Comfort level with salary differences between partners
• Financial support for the family and how it may change after the arrival of children
• Plans for living with extended family
• Future living arrangements after the birth of children
• Career considerations and the possibility of relocation
• Long-term plans for staying at the current address
• Need for proximity to parents or caring for them in old age
• Timeline and desired number of children for starting a family

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• What were your parents' child-raising philosophies, and do you agree or disagree with them? How do you plan to instil values in your children?
• Will you have separate or joint bank accounts?
• If you have separate accounts, who will be responsible for which expenses and bill payments?
• Do both of you agree to share full financial disclosure about your personal finances?
• How will you handle disagreements about spending money?
• Have either of you acquired any loans before the wedding, such as student loans or credit card debt?
• How much money do you need to live comfortably?
• Are there any savings plans for purchasing your first home?
• Do you plan to buy and sell houses until you can afford your dream home?
• How much debt is acceptable to both of you?
• Do both of you agree to financially support your parents if needed?

What will be the Education plans for your Children?

• When is your desired time frame to begin saving for retirement?
• How much time would you like to spend with your parents, and how do you envision your partner's role in those interactions?
• What are your vacation plans and expectations?
• What are your expectations and your parents' expectations regarding holidays, and how do you plan to handle them efficiently?
• What kind of support do you expect from your partner when your parents are pressuring you?
• Are you comfortable discussing issues in your married life with your parents or your partner's parents?
• How do you expect your parents to treat your child, and what are your boundaries regarding their involvement?
• Do you anticipate that your parents will live with you when they are older?
• How were family roles defined in your upbringing, and did you find them fair or expect something different?
• Do you and your partner have any specific preferences or expectations for family roles?
• How do you plan to handle household maintenance and divide up responsibilities? Would you need additional help?
• Do both of you plan to continue working after having children?
• What is your plan for taking care of sick children?
• Are you both in agreement on matters related to intimacy?
• What are your ideas for enjoying intimate evenings?
• Do you have any different sexual preferences, and if so, how do you plan to address any issues that may arise?
• Can you both agree on how to handle differences in the frequency of sexual desire?
• Are there certain topics that you consider off-limits for discussion?
• Would you both be willing to discuss your sexual issues when you are feeling creative and relaxed, rather than during intimate moments?
• What strategies will you use to resolve heated conflicts? 
• Based on your partner's family background, what can you learn about how they deal with issues?
• Would either of you be willing to take a timeout to calm down or brainstorm solutions to a problem?
• What rules would you develop for discussing issues after big arguments?
• How will you establish guidelines for discussing and resolving conflicts after a major disagreement?

What does spirituality mean for both of you? 

What participation do you expect from each other in any spiritual or religious community?

How will you share important matters?

• Do you plan to enroll your children in any religious services or education?
• Are there any specific religious or cultural rituals that you want your child to go through?

As a relationship counsellor, I have found it beneficial to address these issues during pre-marital counselling. By discussing these topics, couples can better understand each other's beliefs and expectations related to religion and culture, and make informed decisions about how to raise their children. It can also help prevent potential conflicts and misunderstandings in the future. Through open communication and mutual respect, couples can create a plan that works for both partners and their children.

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