A marriage needs 2 things essentially apart other paraphernalia i.e compatible spouse & proper time for marriage. The quest for marriage & search for compatible spouse begins to convert a house into home. Once a person settles in job, profession or business, this quest for marriage & locating suitable spouse intensifies. And why not as marriage is one of the most exciting event in the life of a normal human being. And getting a perfect spouse blesses the life for ever. However another fact here is in modern society, this simple thing is becoming more and more complicated. The days of male dominating society have gone.Women’s liberation, increasing effects of social media add to the aspirations that we look in “would be” spouse. We use best of our skills, contacts, social media sources. But still sometime there is inordinate delay in marriage as we don’t find a suitable spouse. People at this stage start blaming marriage Yoga & some even start feeling there is no marriage yoga in their Horoscope. My 2 decades practice of Indian Vedic Astrology reveals that in many cases, we are ourselves responsible for this delay in marriage. This happens because our own parameters or perception looking for spouse are too extraordinarily high. You would agree on this when you read further about the quite apparent reasons for this. But we realise the same after the time has lapsed. .
Known Reasons for not finding perfect spouse.
I am a witness to many stories where:
- Despite everything good, the perfect match is hard to get.
- No proposal comes despite everything excellent.
- There are parleys, negotiations, but they won’t proceed after a first few steps.
- The standards set for the spouse to be are way too high and not achievable.
- Sometime someone close to the native also plays the spoilsport in finding suitable spouse.
These are the few apparent reasons that restrict someone’s search for perfect spouse & restricting Marriage.
Unknown reasons restricting marriage prospects
But there are few others genuine reasons which are hard to understand. However, these reasons make the search for a perfect spouse a traumatic experience. This causes not only delay in marriage but in many cases, even block the chance of marriage. Some of these are:
- Too much expectations & sticking to religion, cast, social status, financial status etc of the “would be” spouse.
- No trusting nature.
- Wanting too much without knowing what to give.
- The selfish personality.
- Being a critic or criticizing nature.
- Self-centric person.
- Inability to empathize.
- “The not so sure” personality.
- The over reactor ones.
- The loner.
How to refine search for “would be” Spouse.
Astrological reading of a horoscope has the potential to tell you many things about your “would be” spouse. Now this is a tool which helps you to move in the right direction with correct prospective in mind looking for spouse. You can know as to spouse would come from :
- Marriage would be Love or arranged.
- Within or outside Country.
- Geographical idea with direction like N E W S.
- Nearer or farther from your place.
- Professional background like in job, in business & like-wise.
- Social & economical background of the spouse & family.
- Nuclear or with larger family etc.
Now once we are in search of a spouse & someone guides us on the above parameters, am sure your search becomes refined. Furthermore it certainly dilutes some factors on which either the aspirant self or the family is either over-ambitious or excessive protective. Let my long experience confirm here that sometimes these factor or factors become ardent in search of a perfect spouse.
Horoscope readings for Finding perfect spouse.
During the analyzing sessions with those who couldn’t marry even after extraordinary efforts, I have come up with reasons as enumerated above that forbids the person from marrying. The horoscopic reason is a negatively afflicted Lagna and the tarnished Lagna Lord. However, there are very few who realize that they have been groomed up with this kind of disability and fewer are those who would work to correct out this deficiency in them.
My research work prompts me to look into the horoscope of those who couldn’t marry and figure out what is stopping them from achieving that fete. I have figured out many astrological reasons and the consequences they have in the native life. I will explain & reproduce the same as below.
The Du-Sthana from the house of marriage
The Du-Sthanas are the 6th house, the 8th house and the 12th house from the house they are seen. These houses try and restrict the growth of the house concerned. Now, the house of spouse and marriage is the 7th from Lagna, and the Du-Sthanas from this house are the 12th house, the 2nd house and the 6th house from Lagna. These houses work against the well being of the 7th house (about marriage and spouse) in question. If there is some planet placed in this house, it would further complicate the issue as in addition to that house and its lord, another planet has added in strength to trouble the native as regards to marriage.
For example, Sun in the 12th house points a finger toward the father or Job, which more often than not play a spoilsport in solemnizing the marriage of the native. It also reflects toward the self-fish personality of the native. And it becomes evident, as soon as the conversations for wedding begin.
The supporter of these Du-Sthana
YES! These Du-Sthanas can have ardent supporters which further cause delay in marriage or even deny the marriage. These supporters are the planets placed in Trines/ Trikona or Kendras to these Du-Sthanas. The Du-Sthanas draw strength out of these supporters and become fiercer in denying things.
For example: When the sun, deciphers in the 12th house, the father may be playing a spoilsport causing delay in marriage event of his child. Do not take it literally, it can be that he has set some standards which are becoming hard to fulfill. And from this sun in the 12th house say Saturn is placed in 3rd house ( Kendra), or Rahu is placed in the 4th house then this Sun is drawing considerable strength from these positions of Saturn or Rahu or any other planet that occupy the trine or the Kendra position from it (the Sun) which is negating the marriage.
The Karaka of marriage
Venus is the karaka or marriage whereas for a female horoscope there is an additional Karaka which is the Jupiter. If these karakas are ill-disposed in a horoscope in respect to the 7th house (for which they are the doer Karaka), there would be further delay in marriage as any of the above factors which negate the finding of spouse gets activated:
So, it is not only the lord of 7th house or the 7th house which could jeopardize the chances of finding perfect spouse, the critical factors as discussed above can ruin the chances of marriage in such a fashion that the right partner always remains far from the sight.
Can Astrology help finding perfect Spouse
There are treatments; a comprehensive analysis can make us conclude the loopholes which are negating the chances of even meeting a person for marriage let alone the actual marriage. Accurate astrology can easily find what are these factors & further how to improvise them. It is not that the standards that we set, are high but the rigidity is such that it makes us look no further. A complete analysis can help us evade the:
- Deceit if there is any.
- Can help us lower or correct the bar of financial status, the relocation tantrums, the caste, and sub-caste rigidity, etc. that we have set.
- Can prevent multiple rejections.
And further, realign the thought process so that the perfect match is not far away. Remember, do not complicate the already problematic Yogas of no-marriage in your horoscope, get assistance for a way out.