When will I get married?
When will I get married? is a normal question in human minds after reaching the natural marriageable age.Then another question is if there is a delay in marriage, what are the reasons for delay in my marriage. My focus here is not to narrate the known & discussed reasons for delay in marriage. But I will reveal many unknown OR little known factors which can & do attribute to delay in marriage. Dynamics of society, changing levels of education, awareness are some factors which as it is, are adding to this problem. Evolution in female’s status in the modern society becomes another dominant reason of delay in marriage. These are the factors which can delay the marriage of any commoner & can be applicable to any of us circumstantially.
When will I get married? What are the reasons for delay in my marriage?
The time of predicting anyone’s marriage needs basically the study of 2 main doers in a horoscope. The doers of marriage are the Venus and the Jupiter, one is the Guru of the demons, and the other is the Guru of the Gods. Both these Gurus must be suitably placed and should be supportive of each other so that the event of marriage takes place. With the proper study of these doers alongwith 7th house generally should answer your question, when will you get married?. But here the problems comes when there are reasons for delay in marriage. These reasons can be unintentional , circumstantial or even intentional also. In this blog, I will explain how, sometimes our closest ones can become reasons for delay in marriage. What is there in their charts which causes delay in Marriage & what planetary positions can influence a Marriage Yoga. The planets which strengthen the Marriage Yoga & promise the Marriage are the two Karakas (doers). The Venus and the Jupiter, and the Lord of seventh house. Wrong infliction of these 2 planets spoil the Marriage Yoga & finally lead to delay in marriage.
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Factors leading to delay in marriage or weaken Marriage Yoga
There are a few classic combinations propagated by different sages which negate OR influence Marriage Yoga of an individual. This leads not only to Delay in Marriage but also develops a sense of depression that I can not marry. The most important of these combinations are:
- When Venus and Mars combine in the 5th, 7th and 9th house , the person does not marry.
- If the Lagna, seventh house and the twelfth house has intrinsically bad planets and a weak moon is in the fifth house, the person does not marry, or the wife is infertile.
- Presence of Dhoom in the seventh house, the person does not marry, and positioning of Kaal in the seventh house makes a person wifeless.
- Venus getting hemmed between bad planets or if there is a bad planet in the 4th or 8th or 12th from Venus, then there is a denial of marriage.
- When the seventh house is housed by bad planets like the Sun, Mars or Saturn and is further aspected by an intrinsically bad planet, then there is No Yoga of Marriage.
- Mars in the seventh house and aspected by an intrinsically bad planet devoid the person of marriage.
- A weak seventh lord is positioned in the TrikBhav (6,8,12) then one may not marry.
- The seventh house has a weak moon, the seventh lord in the 12th house the karakas are also ill placed then there is No Yoga of Marriage.
- Sun and Venus in the 5th,7th or 9th house devoid of the person of marital happiness.
- A combination of Venus and Mercury in the seventh house devoid the person of marriage.
Impact of planetary position on Marriage Yoga
The above ten combinations are few of the important combinations which can negate the marriage of a person. Or cause delay in marriage. These combinations are nothing but traits an individual develops which becomes responsible for coming in the way of not finding the right match at the right time. Every individual dreams of a picture of would be the spouse. But the problem arises when rigidity, prejudice, ego and superiority or inferiority complex takes over the intelligence of the native or family members involved. All these factors lead to delay in marriage.
What causes delay in marriage or spoil a Marriage Yoga
Let me explain how these no-marriage yoga gets fructified:
The native, himself/herself, becomes responsible:
There are numerous instances when the native himself/herself sets some guidelines for marriage alliances. Now, this can be any one or a combination of qualification, employment, family structure, looks, assessed temperament, place of work, responsibility, actions, and dalliance. These guidelines are sometimes so strict that the native does not think beyond, resulting in not solemnizing the marriage at all. The planet to blames is a faulty Lagnesh with a distressed karaka of marriage.
The Mother of the native becomes responsible:
A mother goes through many things including miseries in her whole life in different roles & stages. She becomes very protective when it comes to the marriage of her children. Her whole hearten wish remains that her children do not go through such things specially the miseries. Somethings this protective attitude becomes so compelling that she rejects perfect suitable matches also on the flimsy whim, perception and fancies. These mothers become instrumental is negating the Marriage Yoga of their ward causing Delay in Marriage. Astrologically the moon’s position in Navamsh indicates as to how the mother would void the marriage prospects of her kid.
The Father of the native becomes responsible:
The position of Sun (father) in the Navamsh makes a father responsible for delay in marriage. There can be a situation where the father is prejudice of something or maintains a nasty and non-respective nature. A superiority complex can also ride high on him. These are the few reasons ( though could be inadvertently) making the father acting as a spoilsport in fortification of Marriage Yoga.
Other family members/relative become responsible:
There are chances that a series of backbiter who would not let even the dialogue of marriage take shape. These can be siblings who would not want their brother/sister to marry at all for their benefits. Many times, elders also turn a blind eye towards their responsibilities.
A competent astrologer can identify all these factors & point out the persons in specific who can cause delay in marriage. In such cases even a horoscope with proper Marriage Yoga turns towards a hopeless situation. A timely insight into such factors, of course by a master, can make many to reap the fruits of Marriage Yoga & that too in time.
A story with relevance
A few years ago, a female 42 years, visited me to examine her chart and suggest ways to get her married. Reading her Horoscope & talking to her made me derive some inferences. Most important of these are enumerated as below.
- She was apprehensive that there was no Marriage Yoga in her horoscope..
- For this as advised , she had undertaken several rituals but all in vain.
- Her qualifications were quite high & she was working with an MNC.
- On the personality, she was smart and had average looks.
- Her nature was submissive.
- She came to me with her younger brother and mother.
I saw her horoscope with all the relevant charts and announced that the marriage was indeed possible but for that, she had to revisit me after some time. I could see the perplexed looks her mother had to offer after listening to what I said.
After a few more revelations about her career, they left my chamber. As they went, I told my assistant to give them the next date for an audience. However I also said that the girl should try to meet me with some one other than the mother & brother, who were already playing spoil spot. I knew who was responsible leading to delay in marriage or to diminishing Marriage Yoga.
Hidden but true reasons for delay in marriage
The reason for this was:
- The mother apparently was very keen on her marriage. But she was highly repulsive of the idea that her daughter moves out of the town after the marriage.
- The mother did not want her daughter to move out of their home even.
- The brother of the girl in question was too dependent financially on his sister and was practically doing nothing. But he also made sure that the girl was under his command.
- The father of the girl was also not financially stable and was under the command of his wife and son.
The role & impact of Sun (father), Moon(mother) and Mars(brother) was clearly seen as factors causing delay in her marriage. As her employment was gaining strength so was the Yoga of no-marriage. The mother of the girl subconsciously wanted her daughter not to go away as she was not only the breadwinner but also was giving them material comfort. The affection of the mother was for her son, and she was using her daughter to make her son an undeserved beneficiary.
How astrology helps overcoming reasons for delay in marriage
The next time the girl visited me, I asked her to change her city of work, which was evident from her horoscope. I also cautioned her not to succumb under undue pressure and move to another city without the crutches of family. I also asked her to restrict the monetary support to the family, take care of the food, that to basis, give nothing to brother.
It took some guts from her, but she did I had prescribed her. She migrated down south where she became more liberal and freer in deciding for herself.
She followed my advice to shift her work place to another city & got married within one year of it.
There are harmful Yogas but then there are ways also to deactivate the same. One should know what changes one needs to do within own self to deactivate these Yogas . One thing is for sure that if we do not modify our Karmas.
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